After looking at the feedback from a survey I sent out, there seemed to be an overwhelming response of wanting to see content about parenting, friendship, marriage, personal development, life skills and overall encouragement.
Moms wear a lot of hats; it can often feel like no one is getting the best of us because we are stretched thin and over committed. We set huge life, personal, parenting, marriage and business goals because culture says “shoot for the moon,” and “hustle hard,” yet, often by the end of Monday, we didn’t even accomplish waking up to our alarm clock without hitting snooze…much less made it to the gym, ate a balanced diet, drank enough water, parented patiently, loved our spouses well and spent less time on social media.
Why even bother?
Well, my personal take on it is this: We are either growing or dying. We are getting better or worse. It’s ok to have some dips in our graph of life, but ultimately, I want my overall graph line to be charting up, not down.
Where do we start and how do we avoid feeling like we are failing at everything? Start small.
Similar to how Dave Ramsey says to start paying off your debt with the smallest debt first, if we feel like we are accomplishing “small” things, we tend to feel better about ourselves. It’s much easier to accumulate a series of small wins throughout the week which builds confidence instead of feeling like a big fat failure if you didn’t accomplish that big goal.
I recently ready a book called Atomic Habits and the content of this book resonated with me more than any book I’ve read in a long time. I like goals, but I’m not a huge goal setter. I’m a 1 on the enneagram, the perfectionist. I’m SO HARD on myself when goals aren’t reached. And because I set my goals so high, over the course of my sales career and life, even though it appeared to everyone on the outside that I was “killing it,” I often felt like a massive failure because I wasn’t close to hitting my goals.
This book has completely shifted my perspective—It’s not about creating goals, it’s about creating small, intentional habits that build upon each other that can have compound effects on our lives, and ultimately change our lives for the better.
I was so inspired by this book that I wanted to share with you what I’m learning…hence, the very first of the #v253challenges is about habit stacking. I would love for you to participate! If you want more clarity about the topic, please feel free to comment or email me!